Solenn Heussaff takes to her website to share her thoughts on body shaming and the common practice of commenting on other’s weights. The timing comes after fans began speculating over whether or not Anne Curtis, a close friend of Heussaff’s, might be pregnant began of her weight. Heussaff’s post, titled “Can We Be Done With Saying “Ang Taba Taba Mo?”, takes down the way body shaming is so common place in Philippine society. She likens casual comments about people’s weights to the way we greet each other, remarking that it’s the new “Hello”.
In her post, Huessaff takes the time to enumerate the various instances and kinds of comments she and people she knows have received. She wrote, “There’s the straightforward “Ang taba mo”; the pasimpleng “Parang tumaba ka?”; the super insulting “Buntis ka ba?” when you’re NOT pregnant; the pa funny (but just as mean) “Diet diet pag may time”… The list goes on.” Huessaff is incredibly fit and is known for her athletic figure and healthy lifestyle, but despite being many people’s #fitspiration, she’s not immune to receiving these kinds of comments or from the negative mental toll they can take.
She candidly shares how she grew above the negativity, writing: “I’ve been a victim—no, a survivor—of body shaming. And after years of feeling annoyed, frustrated, and trying every diet available in the market to conform to people’s opinions of me, I said to myself, “F**k this. Why am I so hurt and affected by what others think?” Especially when the people who tell me I’m fat don’t know anything about what I’m going through and don’t even know the first thing about health.”
In a society that places a premium on appearances, women are especially vulnerable to attacks on their self esteem based on their looks. Let’s hope we can all stop commenting on each others weights and actually do something productive with out energy instead. Heussaff shares a similar sentiment, “I’ve come to realize that people who shame others are the same people who don’t know what it’s like to love and accept who they are. So the easiest way to get rid of their own insecurities and unhappiness? They spread hate.”
She continues to add that “health is more important than size” and “meaningful conversations are so much more helpful than unsolicited criticism”. The post also contains five pieces of advice from Huessaff on how to deal with body shaming or low-self esteem linked to your body:
- Accept who you are and love the body you live in.
- Take care of it by living a healthy, balanced life style.
- Always be active. She suggests taking a 20 minute walk a day.
- Never compare yourself to others.
- Support each other.
Her final bit of advice comes at the very end of her post where she gives this gem: “If ever someone ever comes up to you and says Those Words again, just smile and walk away. Trust me, you are so much happier than they are—and that already makes you the better person. Hasta la vista, haters.” Read the entire post on solenn.ph